mnmlist: Finding yourself in spareness

We often create an identity for ourselves using things.

We have logos or slogans or cute catchphrases on our clothing, and it shows people who we are. We have tattoos or piercings, baseball caps, accessories, smartphones, designer bags, Manolo Blahnik shoes … and these express to others who we are.

In our homes, what we have on our walls shows others who we are. What TV shows we watch, what books we read, what celebrities and blogs we follow. What brands we like on Facebook. This is our identity.

But what happens when you strip all this away? When you are left with plain clothing, a home that is empty and spare … how will you express yourself? What will you use to forge an identity? You could argue that your identity would now be called “Minimalist”, but let’s go beyond that label.

In spareness, we are confronted by a lack. It is a frightening thing if you aren’t accustomed to it. You must take a close look at that lack, and wonder, “What am I left with?”

When there is just you, and nothing else, you must look inside yourself. You have to ask who you are, and again, that can be scary. You start to question whether you are adequate as a person, and then you wonder where this sense of inadequacy comes from. You start to realize that there is nothing more possible than who you already are, that there isn’t anyone who is “more adequate” than you, but only people who are different. If you perceive them to be “better”, that’s only because you are measuring them up to a standard created by someone else. When you remove that arbitrary and meaningless standard, there is no “better”. There is only who you are.

There is an empty room, and you. And you are enough. You are all that’s needed in this room, you fill it with your light and the miracle of your being, and you now realize: the things you used to express yourself, those were just a crutch. You need none of it. You are enough.

In spareness, you find enough.



all posts



2011
December
28Kindle & iPad are marketing devices
14Finding yourself in spareness
November
30buckshot vs. rifle approaches
23downsides of minimalism
October
28minimalist protest
20Featurecreep & grandparents
4You don’t need the new iPhone
August
30on wanting stuff
23avoid new gear
11a minimalist in NYC
1the minimalism of tea
July
20i’m not playing that game
4paring ideas
June
21the just in case syndrome
3can you live without?
May
25walking ads
5the most minimal blog
March
23city vs. country minimalism
19minimalism’s critics
1spartan pizza napoletana
January
27I am not a brewer
20minimalism vs. fear


2010
December
20localization
8petite-productivity
November
25live more, need less
18free of advertising
11fewer bills
6paring down
October
30minimalism vs. the corporation
21the zen of limits
September
2510 essentials
15using notational velocity
7addition by subtraction
August
31letting go of fake needs
21undistracted reading
14minimalism is just the start
July
25a fresh start
18moving to a new home
June
10‘I could never give up’
1minimalism isn’t just for the affluent
May
26the beauty of a digital vacation
18the beauty of the ellipsis
11we are not consumers
6on economy
April
29manufacturing content
23society, reimagined: how to make it reality
21society, reimagined
16you need less than you think
14the only thing you can change
9the price of convenience
5possessions != security
5why i won’t be buying an ipad
March
30on finding contentedness
25the joy of walking
18minimalist backup
18minimalist fun
15empower people to create
10the creativity of constraints
9why i deleted 1,000 Facebook friends
5stop making it complicated
3wash your bowl
February
26the minimalism of veganism
22letting go of desires
15cherished mementos
8clear distractions
7mnmlist in 50 words
3minimalism in steps
January
28minimalist eating
18minimalist books


2009
December
22reduce your footprint
8eating less to be lighter
2slowness isn't comprehension
1slow, effective reading
November
22what twitter needs to add next
17unfriending
10learn to love less
4simplicity is the path
3The sweet science of less mail
October
30the 400-word promise
30the beauty of small
27on owning nothing
22the lust for new things
20avoid new stuff
16beat advertising
12unautomate: do it by hand
7the art of brief emails
4minimalism, the quick method
1the true cost of stuff
September
29break free from goals
22minimalist mac setup
21store everything in text files
18clutter is procrastination
16buying is not the solution
14revolt: get free from the tyranny of being current
11how to be less busy in a busy busy world
10minimalist FAQs
9carry less, or pockets like air
85 simple steps to declutter your closet
7win over non-minimalists
7how to let go of possessions
7getting to minimal: all the info you need to track
6minimalism is the end of organizing
6if you had to move, what would you take?
6step lightly upon this world
6consumerism vs. minimalism
6why less stuff is better
6rethinking necessities
6uncopyright and the minimalist mindset
5my minimalist desktop
4what is mnmlist.com?

subscribe